Peter Gariepy Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 Consider you own actions on the forum: This is an antique automobile forum. All posts should be directly related to the purpose of the forum. Moderators will give you some latitude, but please... remember the purpose of the forum. Follow the forum rules. (Duh!) Sarcasm and Ill-timed attempts at humor do NOT come across well in forums - specially in posts that are contentious. Don't feed a topic that we all know will ultimately goes off track should be reconsidered. (I'm guilty of this one). Do not hijack a topic. This is a pet peeve of mine. The hijacking of a topic and changing the topic away from the original is rampant. Start a new topic if you have a new discussion. Report rule-breaking speech on the forum. I even encourage you to call it out in a post. Don't attack, rationalize, or defend. Simple state in the post "I believe your comments are breaking the forum rules." Help the moderators focus the forum towards its purpose - antique automobiles. 8 3 Link to comment
John Bloom Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 I’ll make a suggestion, and I’m speaking to myself here (not the moderators) because I had to do this a while back..... when someone quotes you, comments about your opinion, or directs something in your direction that you perceive as an insult or challenge....... give them the benefit of the doubt, forums are inherently weak in this type of situation. Instead of taking offense and firing back, picture the person who wrote that as a long term buddy, who likes you, and is teasing you in a good natured way that would be obvious if you were standing in person in his garage or yours... don’t take it personally and fire back or “defend yourself”. Let it go. Life is short. Have a short memory and move on. 10 1 Link to comment
Peter Gariepy Posted January 31, 2021 Author Share Posted January 31, 2021 4 hours ago, John Bloom said: I’ll make a suggestion, and I’m speaking to myself here (not the moderators) because I had to do this a while back..... when someone quotes you, comments about your opinion, or directs something in your direction that you perceive as an insult or challenge....... give them the benefit of the doubt, forums are inherently weak in this type of situation. Instead of taking offense and firing back, picture the person who wrote that as a long term buddy, who likes you, and is teasing you in a good natured way that would be obvious if you were standing in person in his garage or yours... don’t take it personally and fire back or “defend yourself”. Let it go. Life is short. Have a short memory and move on. Thin skin seams to be a malady around here. 1 1 Link to comment
John_S_in_Penna Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 A forum on-topic and civil! Such a forum is far more attractive than the opposite would be-- and it's an excellent way to benefit all users and promote the Antique Automobile Club of America. Peter, your appeal is well written and well timed. All the best to our friendly forum members. 2 1 Link to comment
Hans1 Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 3 hours ago, Peter Gariepy said: Thin skin seams to be a malady around here. Yes, occasionally some seem to have to much skin in the game, to think Link to comment
TexasJohn55 Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 32 minutes ago, Peter Gariepy said: Think skin seams to be a malady around here. Is that thick or thin? Link to comment
StanleyRegister Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 The fastest way to discourage and end uncivil discourse, at least for those of us who aren't moderators, is to simply not engage. Don't explain why the uncivil person is wrong, don't write paragraphs in defense. Move past as though the uncivil comment was just the litter on the roadside that it actually is. Talk about cars. 8 Link to comment
joe_padavano Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 I find that the most effective way for me personally is to go ahead and type out the text I want to post, read it carefully, then hit DELETE. 😉 9 2 5 Link to comment
SC38dls Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 Forget you are a Democrate or Republicans. Just be an old car person and assume everyone else is the same way. If your post is hinting towards one of those views delete it and post something that is factually correct and about cars. Yes I have been accused of being a dreamer! dave s 7 Link to comment
TTR Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 1 hour ago, TexasJohn55 said: Is that thick or thin? Perhaps both ? 😉 Link to comment
maok Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 How about a 'thumbs down' button for the disapproval of a post, it could go towards a person's rating in the negative direction. This may make people re-think before posting. 4 Link to comment
SC38dls Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 (edited) This may be a crazy idea but here goes. Where we can post the symbol for “Thanks”, “Ha Ha” and “Like” put a thumbs down or a symbol meaning you don’t like the post. If a post got more than say 5 thumbs down it would automatically disappear! Now that would be very interesting to see the self policing on some threads! Remember I said it was a crazy idea. dave s ps I can already feel about 20 thumbs down coming my way! pps maok you typed faster than I did! Lol Edited January 31, 2021 by SC38DLS (see edit history) 4 1 Link to comment
Xander Wildeisen Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 A symbol that looks like the gong, from the Gong Show. Link to comment
TerryB Posted January 31, 2021 Share Posted January 31, 2021 No Dave, no thumbs down. A few Ha Has perhaps. Civility and respect seem to be missing in the world at times. We don’t have to agree, just be civil and respectful of others and their opinions. 5 Link to comment
maok Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 17 minutes ago, SC38DLS said: This may be a crazy idea but here goes. Where we can post the symbol for “Thanks”, “Ha Ha” and “Like” put a thumbs down or a symbol meaning you don’t like the post. If a post got more than say 5 thumbs down it would automatically disappear! Now that would be very interesting to see the self policing on some threads! Remember I said it was a crazy idea. dave s ps I can already feel about 20 thumbs down coming my way! pps maok you typed faster than I did! Lol I'm not sure about an automatic censorship after 5 thumbs downs, could easily be manipulated and cause further angst and anger, and could have the electric shock therapy affect. 1 4 Link to comment
Bhigdog Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 (edited) Now we have folks urging us to rate or snitch on each other. This place is starting to sound like a chapter from Lord of the Flies. Everyone needs to take a deep breath and calm the **** down..........Bob Edited February 1, 2021 by Bhigdog (see edit history) 5 Link to comment
36 D2 Coupe Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 It was drilled into me as a child - "If you don't have something nice to say ..........." Nuf said! 1 Link to comment
Peter Gariepy Posted February 1, 2021 Author Share Posted February 1, 2021 1 hour ago, TTR said: Perhaps both ? 😉 typo. But yes.... both! 2 Link to comment
TexasJohn55 Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 2 hours ago, joe_padavano said: I find that the most effective way for me personally is to go ahead and type out the text I want to post, read it carefully, then hit DELETE. 😉 Yes, proofreading is good. Link to comment
edinmass Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 (edited) A while back I let Peter know I had no issue with him deleting my post.......I’m fine with it. Sometimes I push the envelope.....not intentionally........but sometimes making my point it may be borderline..........I try to keep a fine line from “over the top”...........and I seem to be only deleted once every six months or so.....I don’t complain. I just take it like a big boy. I take cars seriously, and I enjoy this forum more than I should. That said, live and let live. Don’t like it.........hit the back button and find another thread. I would like to take Peter to dinner.........I think the conversation would be both interesting and entertaining. So....Peter, what do you say? A high end steak house and a bottle of wine........Do you ever end up at AACA events? Edited February 1, 2021 by edinmass (see edit history) 3 Link to comment
Peter Gariepy Posted February 1, 2021 Author Share Posted February 1, 2021 1 hour ago, edinmass said: . I would like to take Peter to dinner.........I think the conversation would be both interesting and entertaining. So....Peter, what do you say? A high end steak house and a bottle of wine........Do you ever end up at AACA events? mostly west coast. You? I love free food. 😘 2 Link to comment
edinmass Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 I just see now your in Arizona.......next time I’m in the area I will give you a shout out. 1 Link to comment
Studemax Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 5 hours ago, SC38DLS said: Where we can post the symbol for “Thanks”, “Ha Ha” and “Like” put a thumbs down or a symbol meaning you don’t like the post. If a post got more than say 5 thumbs down it would automatically disappear! Now that would be very interesting to see the self policing on some threads! That's called censorship. And policing the forum is Peter's JOB. Snitching is bad form. 1 Link to comment
Buffalowed Bill Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 Try to stick to fact based responses. An opinion from someone who doesn't know what he is talking about serves no purpose. It's bound to get push back from someone, and then we know what's next! Link to comment
nick8086 Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 (edited) Post a pic of your car.. Edited February 2, 2021 by nick8086 (see edit history) Link to comment
Steve Moskowitz Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 We have a thumbs down option some time ago...had lots of complaints about it. Comes down to the fact with the tens of thousands of people who visit our forums there are folks from many walks of life with many different personalities. Our job in operating this website is to keep it civil, help forum members, have fun, and grow the hobby. Unfortunately, some want to make this their personal playground to push their agendas. The rules are simple and the moderators will act accordingly if anyone cannot abide by them. 9 2 Link to comment
kings32 Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 Well said Steve Kings32 1 Link to comment
39BuickEight Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 Many people feel they have to reply to everything, when they really don't. 5 Link to comment
SC38dls Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 9 hours ago, Studemax said: That's called censorship. And policing the forum is Peter's JOB. Snitching is bad form. Ok - I don’t think we (the non-moderators) should really censor anyone and as I said it was a crazy idea and I expected a whole bunch of thumbs down. All I was doing was responding to the original question. My original suggestion and one I have posted a few times in the past seems to be a better idea but I believe much harder to apply. If it was followed I am sure it would make a moderators job almost unnecessary! I do believe a guy can be a dreamer. “Forget you are a Democrate or Republicans. Just be an old car person and assume everyone else is the same way. If your post is hinting towards one of those views delete it and post something that is factually correct and about cars. Yes I have been accused of being a dreamer! “ dave s Link to comment
Ronnie Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 (edited) I don't believe a thumbs down button will be helpful. The best way to respond to a post that is inappropriate is to click the "Report" button located at the bottom of every post. That will alert the moderators of a potential problem and they will take a look at the post and decide if any action needs to be taken. Reporting an inappropriate post will allow the moderators to stop a topic from going off the rails - which many times results in the entire topic being deleted. Not all Reports automatically lead to the post or topic being removed so don't expect that. Moderators will evaluate the offending post or topic in an objective way and decide what action, if any, needs to be taken. DON'T reply to an inappropriate post and try to correct what the poster said or "set them straight". That is when tempers flair and is what turns a good discussion into an argument. Arguments lead to topics and posts being removed and people getting banned. Sometimes good people get banned because they can't control their temper. Hit the report button and let the moderators do their job and the forum will run much smoother without all the turmoil and drama we are going through right now. Edited February 1, 2021 by Ronnie (see edit history) 1 2 Link to comment
Buffalowed Bill Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 4 hours ago, Ronnie said: I don't believe a thumbs down button will be helpful. The best way to respond to a post that is inappropriate is to click the "Report" button located at the bottom of every post. That will alert the moderators of a potential problem and they will take a look at the post and decide if any action needs to be taken. Reporting an inappropriate post will allow the moderators to stop a topic from going off the rails - which many times results in the entire topic being deleted. Not all Reports automatically lead to the post or topic being removed so don't expect that. Moderators will evaluate the offending post or topic in an objective way and decide what action, if any, needs to be taken. DON'T reply to an inappropriate post and try to correct what the poster said or "set them straight". That is when tempers flair and is what turns a good discussion into an argument. Arguments lead to topics and posts being removed and people getting banned. Sometimes good people get banned because they can't control their temper. Hit the report button and let the moderators do their job and the forum will run much smoother without all the turmoil and drama we are going through right now. I'm sorry but I don't see how letting a misstatement of facts stand without offering a correction, can possibly be beneficial to the dissemination of information. Is giving fact based information, in response to a misstatement of facts, the same as arguing? 4 hours ago, Ronnie said: 1 Link to comment
Peter Gariepy Posted February 1, 2021 Author Share Posted February 1, 2021 13 minutes ago, Buffalowed Bill said: I'm sorry but I don't see how letting a misstatement of facts stand without offering a correction, can possibly be beneficial to the dissemination of information. Is giving fact based information, in response to a misstatement of facts, the same as arguing? Then post a response. Nothing preventing that. Link to comment
Ronnie Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 9 minutes ago, Buffalowed Bill said: I'm sorry but I don't see how letting a misstatement of facts stand without offering a correction, can possibly be beneficial to the dissemination of information. Is giving fact based information, in response to a misstatement of facts, the same as arguing? I see your point but I don't consider a misstatement of facts an inappropriate post unless someone is telling an outright lie for the purpose of deceiving someone. If you respond by calling him an idiot because what he posted was incorrect then that would be an example of an inappropriate post that should be reported. I didn't say you couldn't voice your opinion. I was just saying to be civil and report posts that are obviously against the rules to avoid arguments. Link to comment
TTR Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 (edited) 15 hours ago, Buffalowed Bill said: Try to stick to fact based responses. An opinion from someone who doesn't know what he is talking about serves no purpose. I If this ^^ approach was expected/required or made mandatory(?) probably 9 (or more) out of 10 internet "discussion" forums, including those dedicated to antique/classic/vintage/etc vehicles wouldn't exist or survive. Edited February 1, 2021 by TTR (see edit history) Link to comment
SC38dls Posted February 1, 2021 Share Posted February 1, 2021 Thinking about it, let the moderators handle it. They have been doing an excellent job so far. They are dedicated non paid people with good intentions and judgment. So just keep the status quo and be decent in your responses. dave s 1 1 Link to comment
Bhigdog Posted February 2, 2021 Share Posted February 2, 2021 99 percent of the posts that may be a bit edgy will burn themselves out and die a quiet natural death. The ones that are truly over the line can be quietly deleted. No harm no foul. Heavy handed diktats from on high, complete with threats of excommunication have just the opposite effect and stir resentment and harden peoples opinions. This thread is a prime example of one that does little good and does nothing but stir controversy. When will they learn?...............Bob 3 Link to comment
Peter Gariepy Posted February 2, 2021 Author Share Posted February 2, 2021 44 minutes ago, Bhigdog said: 99 percent of the posts that may be a bit edgy will burn themselves out and die a quiet natural death. ...all evidence to the contrary. Link to comment
ericmac Posted February 2, 2021 Share Posted February 2, 2021 (edited) I greatly appreciate the thoughtful and insightful responses from our moderators. They are doing a fine job and have more often than not proactively removed inappropriate and disrespectful posts. Their's is a very difficult job and they do it well. Candidly, I would not want to have to trade places with them, and for that I offer my thanks, even if it were to mean some of my own posts go down in flames. Edited February 2, 2021 by ericmac Clarification (see edit history) 1 Link to comment
Bhigdog Posted February 2, 2021 Share Posted February 2, 2021 21 minutes ago, Peter Gariepy said: ...all evidence to the contrary. Interesting. My 99% figure is obviously opinion, not fact, and is obviously a bit of hyperbole . Evidently you have actual evidence to the contrary. I'm always open to discussion and have no problem changing my opinion when actual facts prove me wrong. Can you quantify that evidence, Peter?.....................Bob 2 Link to comment
ted sweet Posted February 2, 2021 Share Posted February 2, 2021 maybe require aaca member number to be linked to user? Link to comment
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