Brass is Best Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 Names and places have been changed or omitted to protect the innocent. A few months ago I sold a wonderful automobile to a gentleman who lived some distance from me. He called and had several conversations. We sent additional information and helped him get an inspection and financed through a third party. Once everything was in place he was going to wire the funds. The day before he was set to wire funds his wife called and left a scathing 10 minute message on our answering machine which would garner a R rating in theaters. Her opinion was that we helped her husband buy this car behind her back and we were evil. She continued that he is not allowed to buy any more cars. We also received a nasty email from her explaining that her husband was not buying anything with out her permission. We assumed this was the end of the deal. The next day our customer called happy as could be. Said he was sending the funds and couldn't wait to get his car. I asked what about your wife? His response was that he was in the process of moving out and had already called a divorce attorney. She asked him the choose between her and another car. He added that he couldn't wait to get the car. So the age old excuse that guys love to use: "I have to check with my wife" has been made null and void. You don't need to check with the wife, just have a good divorce attorney. 8 2 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve Moskowitz Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 I am really waiting to see the responses to this one!!! Me, I am not brave enough to touch it! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John_S_in_Penna Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 A memorable story, Andy! I'm happy to wade in. I've known people with sizeable car collections, and the wives at least go along supportively, even if they aren't car fans themselves. They go to shows with their husbands and take something to read, and happily talk to other people at the show. They attend club events and love to take the passenger's seat on car tours so they can get the best view of the scenery. Maybe they even take another couple along to ride in the back seat and share the experience. The woman in the story needed to learn that support of her husband's interests by a wife, and vice versa, goes a long way to making a happy family. The A.A.C.A. does an excellent job of providing interesting things for both husbands AND wives. She should have participated! 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peter J.Heizmann Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 6 minutes ago, John_S_in_Penna said: A memorable story, Andy! I'm happy to wade in. I've known people with sizeable car collections, and the wives at least go along supportively, even if they aren't car fans themselves. They go to shows with their husbands and take something to read, and happily talk to other people at the show. They attend club events and love to take the passenger's seat on car tours so they can get the best view of the scenery. Maybe they even take another couple along to ride in the back seat and share the experience. The woman in the story needed to learn that support of her husband's interests by a wife, and vice versa, goes a long way to making a happy family. The A.A.C.A. does an excellent job of providing interesting things for both husbands AND wives. She should have participated! Hi, John. I have a suggestion: Get the gents home phone number from Andy and then you phone her to get involved, go for rides, etc. Let us know how she responds...? Almost forgot. Have some earplugs at hand. Regards, Peter/ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John_S_in_Penna Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 (edited) She'll have to learn that lesson on her own, Peter. "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make [her] drink." The AACA provides plenty of refreshing events. She'll soften eventually, we hope in time for a happy marriage the second time around. This is probably a very unhappy time for the wife, so we have to feel some sympathy for her, no matter how much of the responsibility is hers. At this point, she probably WOULD appreciate going on a scenic tour with a friend. Edited August 9, 2018 by John_S_in_Penna (see edit history) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joe_padavano Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 While I'm not the person in the story, there IS a reason why I'm on wife number three... ? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John_S_in_Penna Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 3 minutes ago, joe_padavano said: While I'm not the person in the story, there IS a reason why I'm on wife number three... ? You must have found the right one, Joe, because we see that you have a long list of cars! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Restorer32 Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 Many years ago an older collector whose name some here would possibly recognize was given the same ultimatum. "Either the cars go or I go". His response "I can always get another wife, Duesenbergs are hard to find". I think the end came when she found the blankets off their bed covering the Dues or maybe it was a sore point that there was a Dues and several 16 cylinder Cads in the garage but they had nothing to drive to the grocery store except an old tow truck. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozstatman Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 (edited) At Hershey, while in a lift a few years ago, a lady was commenting incredulously about a couple she'd met that day who's husband had a collction of 90 plus vehicles. What she didn't know was that her own husband had a collection of over 400 cars! She thinks he has about six! Edited August 9, 2018 by Ozstatman (see edit history) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
60FlatTop Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 So I went to the motor vehicle department to license the car in my Wife's name. The lady at the counter pointed at the paper and said "She needs to sign this on the X". "Oh! She's out in the car. I'll be right back." 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt Harwood Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 My father had a friend who was a Buick guy. Had three or four old Buicks that would come to shows on a regular basis, including a '40 Super sport coupe like my father's 41, so they went everywhere together. Very nice guy, he had a son about my age and we would play together when going to shows and tours. All that good stuff. The he started showing up with different Buicks. Like a different one at every show. He passed away just a few years ago and it turns out that he had a commercial warehouse that he'd bought in the '80s and it was filled with old Buicks, maybe 80 or 90 of them, all in pretty good shape. He had been collecting them for years! There were also the three well-known ones that he kept at home. His wife never knew about the others. Never even suspected. I don't know the resolution, but I presume she also owned the building and all the cars upon his passing, so perhaps it was a windfall for her, albeit one that was likely a pain in the butt to resolve. Personally, I found it a bit amusing. Isn't that always the dream? Finding a warehouse full of interesting cars? Bam! There is is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joe_padavano Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 1 hour ago, John_S_in_Penna said: You must have found the right one, Joe, because we see that you have a long list of cars! I sure did this time. As they say, third time's the charm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bhigdog Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 (edited) Judging from your description of the wife's phone rant I'd say even if the husband was buying a Yugo he got the better of the deal..................................Bob Edited August 9, 2018 by Bhigdog (see edit history) 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mercer09 Posted August 9, 2018 Share Posted August 9, 2018 While I'm not the person in the story, there IS a reason why I'm on wife number three... ? who wouldve guessed? lol................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zipdang Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 Of course, we don't know if the husband in question was using the rent and grocery money while running up the credit card bills and leaving his kids shoeless. Just saying... I love my wife and she "understands" the car affliction! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brass is Best Posted August 10, 2018 Author Share Posted August 10, 2018 12 hours ago, zipdang said: Of course, we don't know if the husband in question was using the rent and grocery money while running up the credit card bills and leaving his kids shoeless. Just saying... I love my wife and she "understands" the car affliction! Based on zip code and profession I think everybody had shoes (probably more than one pair) and plenty of food. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JACK M Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 I gave up after number one at 25 years old. I rather enjoy being single. After 45 years it would be a pretty big change to take on a ball and chain. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John_S_in_Penna Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 I wonder what the ladies think who frequent our forum. It would be nice to hear their thoughts on the subject. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ben Bruce aka First Born Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 1 hour ago, John_S_in_Penna said: I wonder what the ladies think who frequent our forum. It would be nice to hear their thoughts on the subject. Waiting. Ben Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TexRiv_63 Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 Great story. I was a car nut before I met my wife so she knew the score from the beginning. She has always supported my "addiction" even though she does not understand it. On my side I always kept the car finances separate from the household and made sure my habit supported itself. I thank her and praise her tolerance to anyone listening, we are coming up on 45 years married! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brass is Best Posted August 10, 2018 Author Share Posted August 10, 2018 On the flip side I had another customer several years ago buy a wonderful 1932 Ford roadster. An older couple showed up at our shop and asked to see the 32 Ford. I pulled it out and the gentleman and I looked over the car and test drove it. When we returned his wife asked him is it everything you expected? He replied yes but I want to think it over. She walked over to me and pulled out a cashiers check for the full asking price. Then she explained that this car was all she has heard about for a month. There was no way he wasn't buying it. She had to put a stop to his constantly discussing the car with friends, family and strangers. The only way to do that was to buy it for him. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
motoringicons Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 (edited) Awesome story. "Like" times 1000. Anytime I get the "I need to check with my wife" line I tell them to go shopping elsewhere. Awhile back, a prolific and current poster on this very forum spent two months "interested" in a car I had for sale. He pestered me incessantly and I provided everything he asked for. We finally agreed to a price and he agreed to purchase the car. He was supposed to send a deposit and I agreed to split the payments between two months once the deposit was received. After sending him this agreement in writing, he stopped contacting me (yet, continued to post frequently on this forum). After numerous attempts to reach him, he responded that his wife told him he could not by the car. For the heck of it, I googled his name. You know what? He is not married!!! I also checked with someone else who knew him and confirmed he is not married. Not only is he a flake, but a liar as well!!! Most of the collectors I know and tour with are husband and wife teams. They both encourage each other to enjoy the hobby to its fullest. I, too, have closed many deals because the wife encouraged the husband to buy a particular car. I also know a few people who continually lie about their purchases to their spouses and, of course, their spouses resent their involvement with the hobby. Who could blame them? Honesty is always the best policy. Edited August 10, 2018 by motoringicons (see edit history) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xander Wildeisen Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 I told my wife at the time that a friend was coming to pick me up, and while gone I was going to look at a customers car that wanted some work done. I came home with the customers car. Went inside and told the wife that I just drove the car back so I could do some work on it. Told her she should go out and look at it, I knew she liked those cars. She walked around the car and thought it was very nice. It was all BS. I had bought the car for her. She drove it around all the time for about two years. Cars are fun, you have to include everyone. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray Bell Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 A slightly different slant on the issue... A new and used car dealer I know has a great line which gets women to sign up immediately. Having determined that a woman liked a particular car, he'd say to them: "I guess you have to get your husband's approval before you can buy it?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pont35cpe Posted August 10, 2018 Share Posted August 10, 2018 I was going to make a personnel statement about this, but I figure the Moderators would delete it and possibly blackball me from the forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brass is Best Posted August 10, 2018 Author Share Posted August 10, 2018 3 hours ago, motoringicons said: Awesome story. "Like" times 1000. Anytime I get the "I need to check with my wife" line I tell them to go shopping elsewhere. Awhile back, a prolific and current poster on this very forum spent two months "interested" in a car I had for sale. He pestered me incessantly and I provided everything he asked for. We finally agreed to a price and he agreed to purchase the car. He was supposed to send a deposit and I agreed to split the payments between two months once the deposit was received. After sending him this agreement in writing, he stopped contacting me (yet, continued to post frequently on this forum). After numerous attempts to reach him, he responded that his wife told him he could not by the car. For the heck of it, I googled his name. You know what? He is not married!!! I also checked with someone else who knew him and confirmed he is not married. Not only is he a flake, but a liar as well!!! Most of the collectors I know and tour with are husband and wife teams. They both encourage each other to enjoy the hobby to its fullest. I, too, have closed many deals because the wife encouraged the husband to buy a particular car. I also know a few people who continually lie about their purchases to their spouses and, of course, their spouses resent their involvement with the hobby. Who could blame them? Honesty is always the best policy. Along the same lines I once had a customer fake his own death. He called on a very well restored Brass Era car and made a deal to purchase. I prepared him a contract and necessary documents. I sent them and he returned them. But he didn't send the payment. So I called his cell phone. No answer. I called his business. His son answered and explained that Dad was in a bad car accident this morning on the way to the bank. Now I feel really bad. I call the next day and ask how Dad is doing and the son tells me not well give them some time. A few days later I have another party who wants to buy the car. So I call and ask how is Dad? The son tells me that Dad passed last night so he won't be buying the car. A few months later I am walking the swap meet at Hershey. I come to a vendor spot and recognize a name as the son of the dead customer. As I am getting ready to give my condolences an older guy comes out of a camper and says "Son I'm gonna go walk around". I asked are you John Doe? the old guy says I sure am. I ask are you from New Jersey and run Fill in the Blank Industries? He says "That's me". I said your the best looking dead guy I have ever seen. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Dobbin Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 I just had a guy come 125 miles to see a car I have For Sale. He checked it all out and drove it like he stole it. I was pretty sure when the ride ended that he would buy. Then he asked if he could take some pictures to show his new wife of 3 years (Didn't say what # she was) and left. Haven't heard from him and don;t expect to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt Harwood Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 (edited) "I have to check with my wife" = "I don't have the cojones to buy this car, I think she has them in her purse" Edited August 11, 2018 by Matt Harwood (see edit history) 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xander Wildeisen Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 I never checked with my wife about a purchase. I talked to her about why it was a good buy, or the reason behind the purchase. She was also bought this vette. She drove it around for a couple of years. Sold it, and made a few bucks on it. Have to include everyone on the cars. There is a make/model of car for everyone to enjoy for awhile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bhigdog Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 (edited) I have my cars my wife has her horses. Both about an equal a pain in the a$$. Works for us........bob Edited August 11, 2018 by Bhigdog (see edit history) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
76 Caddy Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 I'll just say I tried the "it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission" once. Still happily married for 30 years. Tim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SC38dls Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Bhigdog — don’t you know you should never buy anything that eats while you sleep!! Dave S Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bhigdog Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 (edited) 11 minutes ago, SC38DLS said: Bhigdog — don’t you know you should never buy anything that eats while you sleep!! Dave S While i sleep. While im awake. Makes no difference. It never stops. Damn things eat like a horse. We operate using the dont ask dont tell system. I never ask what the horses cost, she never asks what the cars cost, and neither of us tells. Works for us......bob Edited August 11, 2018 by Bhigdog (see edit history) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SC38dls Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Then they have the nerve to take a really big dump! Dave S Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vintageben Posted August 11, 2018 Share Posted August 11, 2018 Yeah my wife and I operate with the don’t ask don’t tell policy as well. I remember a few years ago we were both sitting at ordering stuff. She was ordering clothing, I was ordering car parts when she looked up and asked “how much are those parts going to cost dear” my reply “Not sure how much is that clothing.” She smiles a knowing smile and nods and not another word is spoken about money. That’s how it has worked for us since 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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