what do i do

[JustDave]

hello everyone

as some of you may know ive been working on the restoration of my 1927 moon roadster,my wife has always been a little irritated with me because ive had a 31 devaux sports coupe in storage since 1970,and she thought I should restore it first of the 3 cars,on august first my wife of 46 years passed away,my one daughjter said I should put the moon away and do the devaux instead,i told her I cant stop on a project once I start,now I lay awake at knight by myself wondering if it would be a tribute to my wife,she always wanted the first ride when the devaux was finished the moon she could of cared less about,now im wondering what to do ,all advise appreciated     dave

[Bob Hill]

How far along are you on the Moon restoration? Are you at a point where you can store it without having to duplicate effort (put parts back on that will be required to be removed later for restoration)? IF you can, I would put it aside and do the Devaux in honor of your wife,  I think your daughter probably wants his as a memory to her mom

 

Bob

[keiser31]

Follow your heart.

[Bhigdog]

There's no right or wrong. The key to a "successful" restoration is it being a labor of love. If you end up doing one out of a feeling of guilt or responsibility you could very well end up resenting it and everything involved with it.

Do the one that will give you the most happiness restoring and driving. I'm guessing you wife would want it no other way...................Bob

[SC38dls]

I'm sorry for your loss. Talk with your daughter and let her know your feelings as to why you are doing one over the other. I assume you are close to 70 or older. Explain why you want the moon done first. Time is short for all of us and we need to do what will give us the most pleasure in the short time we have left at this age. It has to be your decision ultimately. I hope you can enjoy and your daughter honors and respects that choice. 

[CarlLaFong]

^^^^^^What he said

[C Carl]

HI Dave ,

           I join your other friends here , and extend my sympathy to you and your family at this difficult time. I would only add to the heartfelt advice given to you above , and say give it some time. Although your loss is irreplaceable , you will evolve into a new YOU in certain ways , as of now unknown. Don't upset yourself with worry at this point. The way will become perfectly clear after the passage of sufficient time. Several months , or perhaps a year from now , tune back into that part of your internal "software" which is troubling you now. In the end , as per above , follow YOUR heart , and do whatever makes YOU the happiest. A content YOU will also bring peace to your surviving loved ones. No need to second-guess your personal inclinations. Go as easy on yourself as possible , Mother Nature and Father Time are your healers now.   , Your Forum Friend , Cadillac Carl 

[Walt G]

I totally agree with what SC38DLS stated, especially "  Time is short for all of us and we need to do what will give us the most pleasure in the short time we have left at this age "

Three times in my life health wise, "tomorrow" was at best a long shot, the most recent a little over a year ago. It is your choice no one elses.

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[CarNucopia]

Dave,

 

I'm very sorry for your loss. I agree with the advice above to give it time. With the passage of time, you will arrive at the answer that is best for you. There is no wrong answer.

 

When my father passed away, I had some similar things that I had to resolve. 6 months after he was gone, I thought my head was on right. I realized after a year I was still grieving. Ultimately, you will be at peace with your decision because in time, your heart will lead you where you need to be.

[JustDave]

THANKS EVERYONE FOR THE KIND WORDS,MY WIFE WAS THE TRUE LOVE OF MY LIFE,THREW GOOD AND BAD TIMES SHE WAS ALWAYS BY MY SIDE,GAVE ME 2 DAUGHTERS 4 GRAND KIDS AND A GREAT GRAND DAUGHTER,I TRULY AM LOST WITHOUT HER BUT ILL SURVIVE AND GO ON, I BELIEVE ILL FINISH UP THE SHEETMETAL ON THE MOON AND THEN PUT IT AWAY AND DO THE DEVAUX JUST FOR HER,AGAIN THANKS EVERYONE       DAVE